“You shouldn’t eat egg yolks, they’re fatt-“
This made me giggle creepily to myself.
The “thigh gap” also makes me laugh, but in a more like, angry way.
But then, the truth was never really the point. Thin women don’t tell their fat friends ‘You’re not fat’ because they’re confused about the dictionary definition of the word, or their eyes are broken, or they were raised on planets where size 24 is the average for women. They don’t say it because it’s the truth. They say it because fat does not mean just fat in this culture. It can also mean any or all of the following:
Just plain icky
So when they say ‘You’re not fat,’ what they really mean is ‘You’re not a dozen nasty things I associate with the word fat.’ The size of your body is not what’s in question; a tape measure or a mirror could solve that dispute. What’s in question is your goodness, your lovability, your intelligence, your kindness, your attractiveness. And your friends, not surprisingly, are inclined to believe you get high marks in all those categories. Ergo, you couldn’t possibly be fat.
Kate Harding (via chubby-bunnies)
Wow. Powerful thing to read this morning and so true. I can’t count how many times I have heard the sentence “you’re not fat” from friends thinking “do u think I’m an idiot? I know my dress size, I look in the mirror every day, and people who don’t know me judge me on it solely….”. Now it all makes sense