I think I’m going to take a break from looking at fitspo/fitness/healthy/motivation and tumblr in general for awhile.
I’m really stressed out and all the 16 year olds claiming to be “healthy” are really pissing me off (if you’re 16 and actually healthy, I’m sorry if I offended you). I’m becoming unreasonably upset at them, I guess I just see it as a snowball. What if someone ACTUALLY believes this pro-ED BS you are preaching. I know I can’t battle them, there’s no point in trying to talk sense into them so I just come up angry because they’re throwing their lives away and possibly endangering the lives of others.
Another obnoxious note is all the “get fit quick” schemes and tips. OH THE TIPS. THE TIPS! They piss me off too. My favorite is the, “If your stomach is cold while you’re working out, you’re burning fat.” I’m sorry, it doesn’t work like that. What a simplified version of what our complex, beautiful bodies do. You don’t work out to burn fat. UGGGHHHH
I’m going to let my queue run out, it’ll take a couple of days. And see what sort of mental state I’m in when I come back.
But then, the truth was never really the point. Thin women don’t tell their fat friends ‘You’re not fat’ because they’re confused about the dictionary definition of the word, or their eyes are broken, or they were raised on planets where size 24 is the average for women. They don’t say it because it’s the truth. They say it because fat does not mean just fat in this culture. It can also mean any or all of the following:
Just plain icky
So when they say ‘You’re not fat,’ what they really mean is ‘You’re not a dozen nasty things I associate with the word fat.’ The size of your body is not what’s in question; a tape measure or a mirror could solve that dispute. What’s in question is your goodness, your lovability, your intelligence, your kindness, your attractiveness. And your friends, not surprisingly, are inclined to believe you get high marks in all those categories. Ergo, you couldn’t possibly be fat.
Kate Harding (via chubby-bunnies)
Wow. Powerful thing to read this morning and so true. I can’t count how many times I have heard the sentence “you’re not fat” from friends thinking “do u think I’m an idiot? I know my dress size, I look in the mirror every day, and people who don’t know me judge me on it solely….”. Now it all makes sense
I’ve realized that many of the people I follow are not necessarily fitspo but instead thinly veiled thinspo.
I’d like to follow people who are more like me, busy, older than 20, not turned on by thigh gaps and collar bones, pro-health, body-positive, and truly dedicated to becoming healthier and fitter the right way.
Just like this and I’ll check you out!